Vulnerability as a Strength
By: Giancarlo Simpson, LMHC
We Deserve to Feel Protected
Many of my clients reflect on their inability to open up and connect with others as something taught to them growing up. Their stories are like many of our stories growing up, where our opportunities to be emotional and vulnerable are stifled. “What are you crying for?” “You a man and men don’t cry (said to a 5-year-old),” “Don’t tell your cousins because they talk too much,” and many more examples of us being taught to suppress our emotions and keep things to ourselves have also been what has hindered us from connecting wholeheartedly with others. We are taught early that our feelings and experiences are to be kept “in house.” The irony is that these feelings and experiences are kept “in house,” and the solutions to our dilemmas are not explored. No healing, just vibes.
Vulnerability Takes Courage
I am here to say that vulnerability takes courage. Vulnerability can leave you feeling defenseless and helpless, but if you own your narrative (trust who you are), what you share will only strengthen you. By owning your narrative, you remind yourself that you create the story you want to live and what you/how you share will only compliment it. Vulnerability does not have to create an experience where your happiness is at the burden of someone else. Don’t let anyone dictate your happiness. Ever.
It is easy to shut someone out. Give yourself permission to be strong and to be vulnerable. Trust that you are on a journey, growing in self-love, and this new journey will provide new opportunities for connection and intimacy.
But don’t pressure yourself; progress is a process. If you don’t give yourself permission today to be vulnerable, then do it tomorrow. You are deserving of connection and peace of mind. I want that for you.
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We need to break generational curses, collaborate on strengthening our communities, decolonize how we see each other, and see ourselves, reimagining a world for ourselves where strength and vulnerability are interchangeable concepts. So, to my Black brothers and sisters. Let us come together, genuinely unified, truly together. Receiving who we all are in our purest forms.